Women we need you to have beautiful Births,

Men we need you to support them.

 

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  1. BY HELEN COMMERFORD

  2. ISBN 978-1-877534-49-2

  3. 14cm x 20cm

  4. 62pp

“

“Today we

  must take the

  control of our

  births back.”

A mother’s journey to better birthing

This book is not just for women, not just for pregnant women, but for ALL women who want to enjoy having their babies.

WOMEN let’s make our own rules as to how we birth our babies. Listen to all the advice and then make the decisions for yourself that are going to empower you in the birth of your child. Then you and that child will walk the talk of your own goodness. A mother’s journey to better birthing

This is not a medical book in any way; it is a book from my heart to your heart. It is to cherish and comfort you and for you to keep by your bed or a chair. It is for you to refer to in quiet moments. It took me to my fourth baby to create a quiet space for myself. Please don’t take that long.

I hear of so many young parents struggling with their babies and children in our western society today, trying to do their best for them, doing what they were told to do by doctors, nurses, family and friends and books, yet still their child cries a lot or they have a troublesome baby on their hands.

My wish is also that fathers too will read my book as this affects you as well. If mum does not have your support, getting a content and happy baby will be so much harder. Believe me it’s true. It’s written from a woman’s experience but I think this will help you understand more.

Why listen to me? Well I’ve had six births and I did learn to do it well, much better than when I started out. So I think I have something to hand on if anyone wants to listen. It has been a long journey and I only see the good in it all in hindsight; my learning was huge, it wasn’t easy, but it was very worth my while. I can see how I tried to make it better for myself each time. I always felt a responsibility to keep my baby safe and do the best I could among all that was on my plate and I know nearly every mother on earth wants that as well.

Women have been having babies since Adam and Eve or, if you aren’t religious, we have evolved this way, but wherever it started, we women have created the human race from the beginning of time. Once it was the main part of what we did in the world and we accepted it and then, as time went on, the process became more and more controlled and eventually the male medical system took over here in the western world and told us how to have our babies. But underground there have always been some women who have birthed their babies, as they knew how. Yes they lost some, as we still do today, even with all our medical knowledge, but women were in control of their bodies and their babies; not the men. They stood back and let the women look after each other.

Today we must take the control of our births back. Listen to the medical advice given to you, find out everything you can that will work for you and empower you and then make an informed decision what is best for you and your baby. Today we have many women in the medical world and we have lots of women in our lives that would open their arms to be with you if you would only let them.

I’m not advocating you must have a home birth or have it out in the woods, but I am advocating that we learn to birth well, with joy and satisfaction, either in hospital or at home. 

Why do we need you to have beautiful births? The world needs us to bring content happy children here, if things are going to improve at all. Please I beg you, we need you to have gentler births, to bring them up gently and then we may have some chance of a kinder human race.

If ever the violence and wars are to stop or even cut back, where do you think that will start?   With us women, that’s what I believe. We will create gentler creatures by starting right at the beginning with a gentle birth. This is my dream and, hopefully, you will dream it as well.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Helen Commerford is a great friend and no one could know more about birth and motherhood and trying to do it right than her. She spent the first 30 years of her life trying to do it right for the Catholic Church and hence found herself pregnant with her fifth child when she was barely coping with the four she already had. She learnt the hard way how to finally do it right, not for anyone else but for herself and her babies. By the time her fifth baby was born she had taken charge of her own life and left the Catholic Church. This was not an easy decision for one who had once being a devout follower and the hard work of raising five children plus the heartache of leaving the only security she had known took its toll and her marriage to the father of her children ended. Most of us would have not dared to bear more children but Helen has an indomitable spirit and when she fell in love with her current husband who was childless she decided she could manage one more. And she did. Another son joined her family of four boys and one girl. Helen has long had an urge to record her experiences of how she managed to bring six children into this world and bring them up to be the wonderful young adults they are today. Now you can read her story, which is a courageous and delightful account of her children's births. There is much for young mothers to enjoy as well as older women like myself who can identify with at least one of her experiences of giving birth in the late 20th century.